@West
First of all, you did nothing wrong.
Your husband should help more regardless.
And for your own sanity, even if it’s just 2 hours 1-2 x week for example, can you hire some help to give you a break? Or get help from family/neighbors? Anything planned in advance would make a huge difference, having that time for yourself to look forward to.
@West
Your sweet baby is totally ok. This might even help her with learning that she’s safe and she can get to sleep independently in the future. You are doing amazing.
@West
Your baby was tired and she fell asleep. There’s nothing for you to feel bad about.
Now go tell your baby’s father that working 8 hours a day doesn’t excuse him from parenting for the other 16 hours and take a long shower and a nap.
@West
Don’t feel guilty, girl; you’re doing the best you can and taking a break is necessary for your own health…
@West
Trust me, sometimes babies just cry. You could be holding them while they cry, but you made sure your baby was in a safe place and stepped away. She is fine. It’s okay to step away sometimes; don’t beat yourself up for it.
@West
You know what’s the great thing about work? You can call in sick.
Tell him you’re taking a sick day. And that all baby duty is on him. And tell him what is going to happen if you don’t get this time to yourself to get better.
@West
You don’t do it all the time; you gotta take care of yourself too!
@West
I have a job and my wife stays at home; however, I help with some stuff every day no matter how small. It doesn’t take a lot to give mama a break. Sometimes all I need to do is hang out with him while she showers or clean the high chair while she bathes him. Stuff like that. Dad should be wanting to interact with the little one anyway.
@West
You sound like a fantastic mom! In another reply, you mentioned that he makes good money. In that case, would you be able to outsource some household chores, e.g., cleaners and babysitters or sign up to gyms with crèche so you can have regular breaks?
@West
You didn’t do anything wrong. I get burnt out very quickly when solo parenting for an extended period of time. If your partner works a lot and can’t help then you need to hire help/enlist help from a family member a few times a week so you can recharge. What you are doing is very hard work!
@West
Sounds like the husband is the problem. Not you or the baby.
@West
As usual, you have a husband problem.
@West
I had a similar situation yesterday. She would not stop crying, and I ended up just putting her in her bassinet, and she cried for maybe 10 minutes before falling asleep. I felt awful, but I was having a moment where I wanted to pull my hair out. She had been fussing all morning.
We both ended up having a much-needed nap. I’m slowly learning that if I’ve given her everything she needs (food, a fresh nappy, she’s clean and has had cuddles) and is still fussy, then she is just overtired and needs a moment to calm herself, and she’ll eventually drift off to sleep.
@West
Honestly, you’re probably helping her develop healthy sleeping habits. A baby that can put themselves to sleep in 10-15 minutes sounds great!
@West
It’s so hard to be the main caregiver. I am in the same situation as you; my husband is the provider so I feel like I have to work extra hard as a stay-at-home mom. Honestly, I don’t have any advice except that you are not alone and it is understandable that sometimes the frustration can get the best of us.
@West
Hi mama, first, I’d like to say that you’re an amazing mother! You’re so amazing to be able to recognize that you need to stay away for a bit and take care of yourself. Your baby will be okay if she cries for a bit while you take a few minutes to yourself. It sounds like she’s in a safe place, so nothing bad will happen to her.
It’s imperative that us moms take care of ourselves (I struggle with this) to be able to be good moms. You got this! 
@West
I’m actually starting to let my baby do cry it out. I didn’t want to and it breaks my heart. But I need to sleep, and if baby cries and falls asleep without constantly waking up, it means you did your job. Even though it wasn’t your intention, it seems like baby was ready for a nap and to go down. So win-win for you both.