Rant: How many times have I been urged to “put the baby down” in order to get things done? He’s two months old, and the “spoiling him” comments have already begun. My spouse even told me to “put him down”. So, do you want to handle the screaming, or should I? I’m a SAHM, and I’m completely anti cry it out; I don’t even let him fuss unless I have no choice but to. I’ll hold him till my arms fall off, if necessary. He’ll only be tiny for so long. So here is your message: hold your baby and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Okay, I’m done.
My husband tried to have a heart-to-heart with me a couple of weeks after he returned to work when the baby was around 6 weeks old. He said I just needed to put the baby down. That next weekend, I spent the entire morning outside of the house. He held the infant the entire time and never brought it up again.
My husband took leave after my disability expired. He openly confessed that he now understood why it was so difficult to get anything done, and that I had been doing far more than he realized.
I’m glad for you that he understands how difficult it is to balance everything with a baby to care for.
Love to see it Tracy😂
Lmfao, I just ordered my husband to look after him while I napped and see if he could do some chores; three hours later, I awoke to him dancing with the baby, and nothing had been accomplished. Apparently, if the infant is put down, he would cry even worse and refuse to stop. Who knew?
At less than a month old, my in-laws berated me for picking our son up when he started crying. “He’s never gonna learn to be independent”…“You’re gonna spoil him” etc…
Learn to be independent? He’s basically a milk-drinking, shitting potato. I’ll worry about spoiling him later
Something about that generation is that they just can’t keep their mouths shut. I had to tell my mom to stop, you can’t spoil a one-month-old baby!
I told my mom about our bedtime routine where we go around and say goodnight to every room and turn off the lights. This prevents the “we forgot something” moment as soon as my daughter is laying down. If we follow the routine, I can read her a book and rock her to sleep, and everything goes smoothly. If we don’t, it’s absolute chaos. My mom said I was teaching her to stall.
Stalling is normal in infants and toddlers because they don’t have object permanence yet and don’t understand that everything will still be there in the morning. Routines help them with that. Saying goodnight to things helps them with that. Talking about tomorrow helps them with that.
She’s 3 now and loves bedtime. She almost never has any issues going to sleep unless she’s teething (thankfully done now) or going through a physical or developmental growth spurt.
Lol isn’t the oldest kids book Goodnight Moon, where you’re literally saying goodnight to all the objects in the room?
Can’t forget the mush!
My mother-in-law also done this to me. The irony is that her oldest son, a 38-year-old man child, still lives in her home because he is indolent and lacks ambition for a meaningful career. She does not charge him rent, but she still pays some of his bills and prepares him meals.
But, MIL, go on about how I am treating my 1-month-old by taking her up when she screams. 
Wow!What an irony haha
My SO’s mom tried to berate him over that literally in the hospital after the baby was delivered. SO told her off, and fortunately, she never mentioned it again.