My son is 8 weeks old (9 on Thursday), and I am just SO burnt out. He seems constantly cranky and overall unhappy. He fusses almost anytime he’s not feeding or sleeping. It’s miserable, and I just want a happy, content baby.
I was struggling with PPA and PPD, and things were starting to get better, but now I feel it creeping back as I get more discouraged. I keep thinking I’ve ruined my life and that I’ll be miserable with a mad baby forever. I feel like my son hates me and just doesn’t want to be happy because of me .
For context, he’s on Similac Alimentum for suspected CMPA, but it hasn’t helped his fussiness at all. He’s also on Pepcid for reflux, and that doesn’t seem to help either. I spend my entire day bouncing around the house so he can look around, and that only works 50% of the time.
Please tell me this gets better and that the fussiness will go away… I am SO SO discouraged and feel like I made a huge mistake having him .
Should neither of those remedies be effective, might it be that he is not genuinely suffering from reflux or CMPA? Why did the doctor and you conclude that the infant has such conditions?
Baby doesn’t hate you, remember that. Baby adores you. Because they grow inside of you, the baby is bonded to you. His tiny stomach isn’t helping him as he tries to make sense of the world. To aid with gas and digestion, I prefer to repeatedly place my infant on her left side, on her stomach, and back again.
This time will fly by and seem to have blurred. The infant’s digestive system will develop, and maybe things will get better for you.
He had some blood in his feces around three weeks ago, and since he had no other symptoms, fissures, or anything else, it was immediately suspected. We immediately moved to a hypoallergenic formula, but I haven’t noticed much of a change. The majority of folks claim to perceive discernible differences, but we don’t experience that. I appreciate your words of encouragement.
I’m sorry you’re having so much difficulty! Although my babies are older than yours, I can’t say from personal experience. Honestly, I have no idea how long this will endure. But being a parent involves more than just raising a baby or child, right? Your child will undoubtedly become happier at some time. I doubt it will take a year, but it might take a few more months. Sometimes, I find that crying is a call for help rather than anger—“This too shall pass.” While a baby’s cry for assistance and your inability to satisfy them still annoys you, the situation is less hostile and painful than believing your child despises you. Your baby loves you more than everyone else, as someone else said in a comment!
My baby was unhappy and cried all the time. At three and a half months, she began to cry less. Give it a little time. She is still not a content baby, though. She gets angry easily.
I sincerely appreciate your generosity and words of encouragement. You’re right, raising a child involves much more than just the newborn phase. I simply feel like I’m in a dark place right now and can’t see past what’s going on. I appreciate you reminding me that he loves me and that this will pass.
Reflecting on my early recollections helps me feel better. I think I was a couple of years old. You will therefore have to wait a bit for their actual personality to emerge. Your infant is currently communicating without knowing how to do so; everything they do is just a natural instinct or biological reaction.
She was my daughter, this. She was sobbing and fussing all the time. was using Pepcid to treat her reflux as well. Thankfully, I saw she was starting to calm down around 3.5 months. At six months old, she is generally laid back. She still occasionally wants to be held by my husband or me, but things have greatly improved. At that age, I was often agitated and worried about the same issue.
It’s wonderful to hear this! I’m so relieved that you experienced a similar circumstance and it ended. I believe I can handle 3.5 months! Time ought to be on my side, I have to constantly tell myself.
It will. In the midst of things, I know it doesn’t help. But after a while, the light gets a little stronger. I also had a lot of trouble with ppd and ppa. Taking anxiety medication and speaking with a postpartum therapist were helpful. If that’s something you can do, I would definitely recommend it! It has really benefited me. I went from feeling horrible and like I was drowning all the time. I feel like myself much more now. I still have difficult days, but they are unquestionably not as severe as they used to be.
I’m so sorry you experienced similar difficulties. I tried Zoloft, and it made me extremely depressed and on the verge of suicide. I almost died from it. It was awful. I then gave Wellbutrin a try, and so far, I really like it and feel that my PPD is improving. I’m still working on the PPA, but what really worries me is depression. Thank heavens for treatment and medication!
Oh no! I hear most people take Zoloft, therefore it’s good to know that there are others on Wellbutrin. After just about a month of use, I really believe it is beneficial! For what duration did you take it before noticing any changes? I just take 150 mg daily because 300 caused hand tremors and increased anxiety for me😣
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