What a lovely thing to be writing…but as the title suggests, my second born baby is just a miserable, miserable little human. Nothing makes her happy right now. She cries when she’s being held, she cries when you put her down, she cries in her crib, she hates the stroller and she hates the carrier. No bouncer satisfies this child. She doesn’t want to play (age appropriate rattles and stuff) she will just cry. Like nothing makes her happy. She’s miserable all the fucking time and it’s taking it out of me and affecting my mood so badly. I’ve run out of ideas or patience and I just don’t want to be around her. Any chance I get, I’ll spend time away from her because the misery is making me miserable. I just don’t understand what I’m supposed to do and whilst I can’t leave her crying what is the point of me trying to do anything for/with her when she’s just going to continue crying anyway. I’m just tired and I’m sick of this. I don’t want to be in a bad mood all the time but it’s reasonably impossible when I have a miserable little dementor stuck to me 24/7. I don’t even know why I’m writing this but I am just so over it.
EDIT. Thank you for the majority of you who have been very kind and have had good suggestions to explore. Baby is in bed now and naturally I now feel like shit for having ranted online because she’s just a baby. I love her, stupid amounts, it just makes me very unhappy that I can’t seem to make her happy. Two
Two things I’ve taken from you, we have requested an appt with the Dr to explore non-dairy alternatives and I’ve decided it may be time to admit to a doctor that I’m maybe not doing too well mentally.
Ray said:
My son was the same. Now he’s more pleasant than any other toddler. Just wasn’t ready for the world yet. hugssss
My baby hated being a baby, he’s a joy as a toddler and everybody is obsessed with him now. Wonderful manners, generally very happy, laidback and easy, independently plays frequently. But that first year/15 months… phew. It got easier and easier as he got more independent, fine motor skills began developing, figured out eating solids, crawling, walking. I think mine just really wanted to see the world already.
@Frost
My first was like that, and I always said the same: he just hates being a baby. He was never happy. Never wanted to be put down. My second was the happiest little baby but she has acquired a whole lot of attitude now, as a 14 month old. It’s like my son just wanted to move and then he was happy and content, whereas my daughter started moving early and is most upset whenever she can’t be in total control of her domain or push limits. She wants to get into precarious situations and it’s the end of the world if she can’t.
It’s wild how two completely different kids can come out of the same gene pool and household. I’m curious and a little scared of what’s to come, but I can’t imagine life without either of these weirdos.
@oliviamartin
Oh boy my first is like that! He was especially happy once he learned to talk. I’m a little nervous for our second being a potential dare devil we unintentionally did the first parent thing where our first is nervous to do anything potentially unsafe. We’re trying to undo it now that he’s almost 2 and we’ve realized but it’s going to take some time
My miserable newborn turned into the happiest little angel around the 5-6 month mark. She just wanted to sit. As soon as she could sit, she’s been happy ever since.
Don’t lose hope. Newborn personality is not the true personality of your baby. Just try to suffer through it, one day it’ll end
Kingsley said: @Quade
Holding on to hope that gal just wants to have fun and fun can’t be had whilst you can’t move your little self! 5-6 doesn’t seem so far off now
Have you thought about a dairy/soy intolerance? Will also cause non-stop screaming. Might take a while to see results but for some it’s a matter of days. Is worth a shot and was the case for my daughter.
@Florian
I’ve contacted my Dr about this today actually because of how many of you have said this. I don’t know how one diagnoses this though? Is it something you test or do you just have a change of formula?
@Kingsley
Huge suggestion here, we had the same thing. Baby that would cry almost all the time and was inconsolable. We got small breaks when taking her outside or holding her in the football hold. Turns out dairy and soy were wrecking her little tummy. Our pediatrician did a test on their stool for blood, which apparently indicates stomach distress and therefore a high likelihood of a dairy allergy. There’s like a 60% carry-over on soy allergies as well (meaning like 60% of babies allergic to dairy are also allergic to soy), and it can pass through breast milk. From what we were told, the dairy protein is physically spiky and can cause cuts in the babies stomach. My wife cut out dairy for a week and it got a bit better. Cut out dairy and soy and we had a different baby 2 weeks later.
I don’t want to get your hopes up and say it’s 100% the issue, but it’s such an “easy” thing to try, and made a world of difference for our daughter. We’re expecting baby #2 now, and my wife is planning to stop dairy/soy 2 weeks before the due date just as a preventative measure, because holy shit it was miserable.
Our daughter outgrew her allergy at around 9 months old, we used the dairy allergy ladder to slowly introduce dairy and soy back into her diet. Now she’s a cheese fiend.
Kingsley said: @Thorn
This has been the number one suggestion on this thread and I’ve decided to 100% try this. If it works I’m going to love you all so damn much!
Please follow up with us in a couple weeks to let us know how you’re doing. I know without our support team taking shifts with the baby we would have been in an even darker place during those months, it was SO bad. You have a team here to try and help any way we can
@Kingsley
No test just switch and see if things get better. I made the mistake of switching to soy and made it worse thinking it wasn’t actually a dairy intolerance. Usually, it’s both that bother them. My ped brushed it off so I did too as a FTM and regretted it big time. Hypoallergenic formula is expensive so ask your ped if they have samples. I’ve heard a lot of babies reject the Enfamil one because of taste but my daughter has no issue with the Similac. Blood in poop is sometimes a symptom as well which looks like dark spots. My daughter only had that with soy.
Kingsley said: @Quade
Holding on to hope that gal just wants to have fun and fun can’t be had whilst you can’t move your little self! 5-6 doesn’t seem so far off now
Hang in there! My son was difficult for the first 3 months, but chilled out a bit when he was big enough for the exersaucer. I think he just wanted independence (at such a young age! I was floored!) He is now 7 months old and pretty content. The playpen has been a lifesaver and those bouncy chairs helped a bunch as well. I think sleep deprivation has a lot to do with it too, I still can’t seem to get enough sleep, but babe is sleeping for 5 and 7 hour stretches now.
@Keagan
What is an exersaucer?? It’s just so hard! She does actually sleep great at night but our toddler does not and the baby only sleeps about 2 hours total a day across four naps so it’s pretty much hell on earth ha.
@Keagan
Ahhhh yes them magical things, I’ve never heard of it being called that before! We have one ready to go but she’s considered too little for it still. She’s about to be 4m and these are recommended for 5-6 where I’m at but I can’t wait to bring that damn thing out here!!!
hugssss 
we unintentionally did the first parent thing where our first is nervous to do anything potentially unsafe. We’re trying to undo it now that he’s almost 2 and we’ve realized but it’s going to take some time
