You will soon say I miss my baby, embrace these times.
Toni said:
You will soon say I miss my baby, embrace these times.
It’s true. When I’m feeling mentally weak, I have to remember that I will one day miss these days somehow lol. Well, at least every time I go to the grocery store, one person feels compelled to tell me to cherish the younger years.
FTM to a 6-week-old and I feel this so deeply. We have prayed for this little girl for so long and I’m so glad she’s finally here, and I know having a baby changes your relationship and your routine and your priorities and your life, but I miss having things that are mine and don’t revolve around when the baby last ate or was last changed. As much as I am dreading returning to work, I am also looking forward to that part of my life coming back and interacting with grownups again. Hang in there 
@Reese
Feel this. We waited so long for ours as well, but I look forward to the other part of my life as well.
I spent my 20s caregiving for my mom who had health problems… when she died at 29 I felt without a purpose and empty.
Fast forward to last December on my bday, I fell pregnant!
I was excited to have another soul to love and care for… but there are days where I yearn for freedom.
I haven’t sat down and watched a show in 3 months.
I haven’t gone to the mall since December. Being a mom is hard, and at times harder than taking care of my own mom. I was helping her at the end of hers, and now I’m helping my girl at the beginning of hers.
I ask myself, is this my purpose in life?
This was me for the first 2 months… and to be honest, still is at 4.5 months. My son showing and learning his character has helped some of those feelings but I was so blindsided by the loss of self and identity after I gave birth. No one warned me about that!
I get what you mean about missing your husband. My partner and I used to have chats just before we went to sleep. Now it’s a quick ‘good night’ so we don’t wake the LO up.
I’ve learnt to take the little wins and enjoy the cute moments. I know life will never fully go back to pre-birth but some freedoms will slowly return (that’s what I keep telling myself anyway).
Good luck!
Feeling the same. I’ve always been a very independent person and losing that autonomy has been the hardest part about being a mom. I’m honestly excited to go back to work in a few weeks just to have some part of my old life back.
I was feeling this way around 4 months, but now that baby is 7 months he’s getting more fun. It’s becoming easier to do things with him; babywearing helps a ton, but also he’s fairly content to play independently as long as one of us is close. Since we always make a point to have one of us with eyes on him, that’s easy enough to manage. There are harder days of course but it’s not as frequent as it was even just 6 weeks ago.
Totally feel you. Got my 5-month-old ready and out the door today (which took a solid 15 minutes) for a quick store run. She started wailing in the backseat, so I turned around and headed back home to check her diaper, since we were still close by. Diaper was clean, and she was perfectly happy when I took her out. Put her back in the car seat, drove a few minutes, and the wailing started again. At that point, I just gave up on the store trip and turned back home.
10 weeks PP and I feel the same. You’re definitely not alone. 
Ben said:
10 weeks PP and I feel the same. You’re definitely not alone.
Yeah, I’m always dropping food on my kid lol!!
I feel this. Totally normal.
My son is 7 months; I feel you. He wants me and only me most of the time. My husband tries to take him to give me a little break here and there. It’s just not the same. It gets better tho. Hang in there 
Fuck. You ain’t lying. My kid is 2 now. I’m running ragged.
Right there with you. I love my baby, but I miss not feeling like I have a timer/ball and chain that screams; but I’m glad she’s here. It’s just rough sometimes.
Yes to all of this and it’s been a year.
This!!
I am right there with you.
I miss my hobbies. I miss having the freedom to do whatever I want-when I want.
I love my son!
Get your partner to watch him so you can get a nap or share shifts during the night. I do my laundry in stages too but that’s okay. Get a relative to watch the baby so you get some quality time with your hubby; we do this once a week. I’m watching my shows with the baby all the time. Get out for a girls’ night and just enjoy it and cosplay a single girl for a couple of hours and let loose!
Dang that sucks; I’m sorry to hear you feel that way.
It was frustrating learning what his cries meant but I love this stuff from day one. Keeping morale up was something I knew was needed in the lead-up to the birth of my son, and without that knowledge, I wouldn’t have been in the right headspace. Find a new perspective and find it fast in order to keep your sanity.
For example, I’ve heard ‘breastfeeding feels like I’m having the energy sucked from me, like drawing blood,’ but in another perspective you’re actually giving life.
‘Changing diapers is like hell’ OR ‘changing diapers is like a heavy metal concert.’
It’s not the final answer to feeling what you and many others feel, but it’ll probably help a little bit, maybe.
8 months home with my little guy. It gets better, and it gets easier. My wife and I are spending more time together, and we are getting more done, able to tag team on the chores while one is watching the baby while the other can do things, and he’s more independent in his playing so there are those times we both can be doing things for 10 or 15 minutes at a time.