The most annoying thing in my almost 1 year of parenthood has been:
“Wow, your baby is tiny for her age!” Me: “Yes, that’s how averages work. There have to be small babies and big babies to make up those special numbers that everyone swears by.” “Don’t worry, they will grow!!” (Insert unsolicited advice about how to fatten a baby up)
And:
“Birthday’s coming soon, is she walking yet?” Me: “Not yet! She’s crawling all over the place though.” “Don’t worry, she will walk soon!” (Insert unsolicited advice about teaching baby to walk)
Like, I AM NOT WORRIED nor am I rushing my baby’s development. These comments are so minor, but they annoy me so much. People projecting their fake concerns onto new parents is the worst. Anyone else?
This is me and my huge baby. One of my aunts commented that he looks like my little brother instead of my kid.
And I’m told things like, “Oh, I saw a baby smaller than hjm running or talking”. I’m like, it’s okay, my baby is simply huge for his age, and he’s doing just well with his age .
Yup! I’ve had comments like ‘wow your kid is very small’ and ‘is she a preemie?’ since the day she was born. She has always been in the 80th percentile for height and 35th for weight, so she is not particularly little. I have no idea why people do this. I believe that many people have no concept what a baby of a specific age looks like, and/or have erroneous memories of their own kid at that age. I understand, though; I’ve been very frustrated by this as well.
My six-month-old son is in the 97th percentile for height and 80th for weight. He is larger than all of the babies in my friend group who are walking. An older woman at the pool asked how old my baby was, then told me her grandson was just born a few days ago and is considerably bigger than my son she claimed he was 10 lbs and 20 inches, and my son is so tiny for a 6 month old. My son is about 21 pounds and extremely tall, but I just let her have her moment and ignored her lol.
Haha, Jesus Christ. Why do individuals assume that size is something to brag about? A bigger baby does not mean a better infant. I had a friend who felt she had to lie about her baby’s weight. She came to my house with her one-month-old son and said, ‘Oh, he’s a huge boy, he’s already over 14 pounds!’ She placed him on the playmat next to my 5-month-old, who weighs 15 pounds and is significantly larger and heavier than her kid. I have no idea why she made this up, or why people believe heavier/bigger is better.
Same here, and I completely agree with you: people forget! My daughter has always been in the 25th percentile due to reflux. She’s seven months old, yet I still hear comments about how small she is.
My daughter is 80th in height and weighs more than ten pounds. I swear some folks stare at me as if I am starving them. She’s a little gal, and so am I! Her father is 6 feet, so that makes sense. But strangers, ugh, so judgmental.
Random folks used to do this to my >100th percentile baby, and they’d comment, “Wow, she’s so small!”
Someone also inquired if my kid was talking yet when she was about 6 months old and then proceeded to tell us a tale about someone’s child who is unable to communicate. Like, okay…
People have no sense of baby size unless they have a baby of the same age. The same goes for milestones.
Simply ignore them.
When someone makes a boring comment about anything, I answer, “Our pediatrician is pleased” and shift the subject.
Baby girl is in the 91st percentile for height and weight. The responses are: “Oh don’t worry, she will lose it when she’s walking” etc. “When she grows up she’ll be tall so can afford extra weight” . I am not worried!
That’s really strange!! The focus on weight is really strange, and I hate hearing stuff like that:( When my baby needed to go to the ER (he’s great now!), the ambulance transported us to the county hospital, which serves many low-income people who lack regular care, access to education and support, and a variety of other impediments. All sorts of physicians and nurses started dropping by to view our 55th percentile baby since “they don’t get to see happy chubby ones like this very often,” which was upsetting.
I wish people would just enjoy seeing babies and stop making such a big deal out of it!
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she claimed he was 10 lbs and 20 inches, and my son is so tiny for a 6 month old. My son is about 21 pounds and extremely tall, but I just let her have her moment and ignored her lol.