@Jai
Ah I’m glad!!! I hope you both rest well tonight!!!
How is her wake time? Is she active enough? I have the exact same problem. LO just wants the nipple in her mouth the WHOLE time. But I‘ve noticed if we go out before her bedtime (which we can rarely do) and she plays, interacts, tires the hell out of herself, she sleeps so much better. So I’m thinking maybe she isn’t active enough in the morning.
We’ve done CIO I believe 2-3 times after some really long terrible nights like what you’re describing. 2-3 times in her whole life. Just a couple times made a huge difference. You’re a good mom. She was overtired and exhausted and needed your help to sleep and you helped every way you could until you found something that worked. Try to calm your body and get some rest.
@Mai
Thank you 
I am passing out now. Not sure what to do when/if she wakes before sunrise but I will figure it out.
What always worked for my toddler was a car drive - I know not ideal - but he would literally go back to sleep after 5 minutes in the car.
Jensen said:
What always worked for my toddler was a car drive - I know not ideal - but he would literally go back to sleep after 5 minutes in the car.
She will wake up the second I try to transfer her & unfortunately isn’t going to have any benefits long term. I can’t drive her around every night.
I started bottle feeding breastmilk at night only because of this. I didn’t want my baby to associate my nipples to a sleep thing. Instead I would lay him down and use a blanket beside his head to hold the warm bottle up. He would feed himself to sleep.
Then I would wake two or three times for dream feeds. Each still in his bassinet with the bottle there held by a blanket. He would go right back to sleep each time.
I would still have to wake once or twice a night but infet more sleep that way. No transfer nightmares and it works for me so far.
Transfer her as soon as she unlatches. Don’t wait. If you’re rocking etc then wait 10 mins. If you wait longer they wake up.
Please write a detailed post on r/sleeptrain. I did and got great advice and I was able to solve my baby’s night wakings! I listed my wake windows, room conditions, and baby’s sleep averages and they were able to troubleshoot the problem for me. I wish I had reached out sooner. Good luck!
We switched to cry it out for bedtime at maybe about the same age and it was horrendous, but I realized I was not meeting his needs with what we were doing as we were keeping him awake. CIO was actually meeting his needs better even though he fought it. He got used to it and we’ve never looked back.
This was me when my little guy was 9 months old. My husband works nights, and I was by myself 5 days a week. One night, I just let him cry for an hour, then picked him up, and he slept for 4 hours straight. I started the Ferber method the next day. After about 3 weeks, it took 10 minutes to put him down. He’s one year old this week, and he sleeps 6 to 9 hours at a time. It was soooo hard to hear him cry. It was even harder the next morning, and he was hoarse… his little voice finally went back to normal after about 2 weeks. You have to do what works for you but I have no regrets and he loves me just the same. Best of luck
Could the room be too hot? Something must be making her uncomfortable. I’ve read about babies having allergies to their clothes detergent making their clothes too itchy.
The other option, something might be hurting her. Once or twice I’ve given paracetamol to my child and he fell asleep afterward a little. I didn’t know at the time that he suffered loads of ear infections.
Another thing I noticed was that we shouldn’t force bedtime. It can rile babies up. 5.30 hours of trying to put her to sleep is a lot of time. It’s better to put the baby asleep when he’s actually very sleepy.
Finally, is the room really dark or is there lots of light?
@Zen
Paracetamol = Acetaminophen
Mine isn’t as old as yours but I have held my baby in my arms while she cries. Ruled everything out. Even breastfeeding didn’t work. Tbh sometimes they cry because they are tired and holding them or being next to them won’t change the fact that they still might cry.
As a psychology major that’s taken a few classes on childhood development, let me sort of explain why they may cry despite your best efforts. Babies cry when overtired because their immature nervous system struggles to regulate stress hormones like cortisol, making it hard to relax. They become overwhelmed by sensory input and cry out of frustration, as crying is their primary way of communicating discomfort. This creates a cycle where they want to sleep but can’t settle down.
All you can do is try your best to not overstimulate them 30 minutes before bed and during the course of putting them to sleep. And sometimes that doesn’t always work.
You are doing great. You are not a failure. Horrible people don’t come to the internet showing their vulnerabilities nor ask for help. You are. I hope you get some well-needed rest and I really hope you find comfort in knowing that your little girl will not remember this moment as ‘abandonment’; rather, she will remember feeling stressed but not for any one reason or another. It’s kind of like reflux; all babies deal with it. Some better than others. But the ones that have it badly just need time for things to mature.
Hopefully, my tangent made sense. And hopefully, you feel better supported by it. 
You do what you need to do. You need sleep and you need sanity. I absolutely believe you’ve tried everything there is.
She clearly needs to sleep, and hopefully this works!
I also have no night help. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done! I got the okay from my doctor to sleep train. I did it and am so glad I did! I did CIO too. Now, my baby wakes up only to eat and goes back to bed. Even if baby is put to bed awake, they will put themselves to sleep. Don’t let people tell you CIO is hurting your baby. Honestly, I think it’s done nothing but great things for us. My baby can self-soothe. We both get good sleep. My baby is sooo happy. I think all of the negative talk is just a new generation. Honestly! Plus, your baby will have to learn these skills one age or another. Easier to do it while young!
I feel you. I am sure you have tried everything. Some nights, some periods are just like that. You’ll get through this. Maybe knowing that it’s only temporary would make you feel better. You and your baby will be good❤️
@Jesse
In my perfect world I could nurse her to sleep every night, every wake up and put her in her crib and sleep peacefully. But that’s not working anymore. Breaks my heart. thank you.
Just did CIO for daytime naps with my 4-month-old. It was sooo hard the first day he CIO for an hour the first two naps; suddenly the subsequent naps were 5 minutes of fussing and he’s OUT! It’s worth it. I used to fight to get him to fall to sleep; usually ended up being contact naps.
If you have a heating pad, try using it to warm the spot in the crib where the LO is gonna sleep. Remove it right before laying them down. We tried this with ours and it did the trick for transferring to the crib. May help. I hope so.
Also, you’ve got this! It’s tough. Some days are tougher than most. But when you’re at your limit, make sure they’re safe and all basic needs are met and set them gently in a safe place and walk away. Sometimes they just need a good cry. Sometimes we do. Let it happen and regroup. Even tacos fall apart sometimes and they’re still good lol!