It’s 12:20 AM, I’ve been trying to put my 7-month-old to sleep for almost 5 hours. She keeps waking up every time I put her down. Now I’m currently letting her cry it out because I literally can’t anymore. She wakes up every hour for the past month or 2. Dad works a demanding job 200+ feet in the air and he needs his sleep so he can’t help with MOTN wake-ups.
I’ve tried gentle methods and nothing’s worked so here I am trying not to bawl my eyes out along with my baby girl.
Put that baby down someplace safe and give yourself 10-15 minutes away from the crying and your baby. Regroup yourself and try again, if that won’t work maybe take them to bed and try again tomorrow. Don’t make yourself sick, you got this mama some nights are rough and they won’t settle. Please don’t beat yourself up.
@Mika
I’ve done those alternatives every night literally for at least a month… I am running out of options and cannot continue co-sleeping. I get zero sleep that way as well because she’s constantly wanting my nipple in her mouth 
she is in her crib, fed, changed, ruled out teething, gas, fever, etc. She’s fine. She just wants me. Breaks my heart but something has to give. I can’t keep not sleeping. It’s causing me to not be a good mom because I’m exhausted.
@Jai
I feel this pain. Honestly, with my daughter, when it comes to putting her down at night, I just had to do it over and over until she would stay down. After 8 months of doing that and breastfeeding, I was at breaking point and started to introduce formula so my partner could take over at night. I started doing a bottle at night instead of breast, and then when she got used to that, I let my partner take over. I know your partner works long hours, but so does mine, and he still does the nights around 7-8 pm. It’s good for him and her as they get time together and give me a well-needed break. I think that’s what you need as well. Breastfeeding is taxing enough apart from the sleep deprivation.
@Jai
I was in your shoes with the nipple in the mouth waking up every 30 minutes and was losing my mind. I did the full-on cry it out sleep training. It was tough. She wasn’t easy like my older kid. But if I supported her to sleep upon going down for the night she would do this waking up every 30 minutes thing even if we were co-sleeping. If she put herself to sleep, she would sleep a good 5-6 hours before waking up. The two months of her waking up every 30 minutes were truly the hardest of my life. I had very dark thoughts. Good luck, momma.
@Jai
I feel you so bad, there’s a point where you HAVE to look after yourself or it’s dangerous.
Do you have a heating pad? If so, can you use it to warm up her sheets before you try putting her down?
Hey mom, I was in your exact shoes. I simply couldn’t take it anymore and had tried everything. The baby took about 35 minutes the first night. 15 the second night. 5 minutes the third night. That was many months ago and it isn’t perfect now, but crying it out changed the game. The exhaustion is torture. Hearing them cry right now is torture, too, but you both deserve sleep. You aren’t a bad mom. It’s okay. Baby will be okay.
@Uma
Thank you 
I appreciate the reassurance. I have done everything I can to NOT have to do this. I wish there was something else I could do
Jai said:
@Uma
Thank you
Co-sleeping is an option in case you don’t know.
@Jory
I’ve co-slept every night for the past few weeks. I’m not getting any sleep co-sleeping. Thanks though.
Jai said:
@Jory
I’ve co-slept every night for the past few weeks. I’m not getting any sleep co-sleeping. Thanks though.
That sucks, sorry to hear.
This was me before I sleep trained. Every transfer was a complete fail and it took me 3 hours every night to put her to bed. The worst was when I held her too long before transferring (20-30 min) and it ended up being a catnap for her. I did cry it out and it was the best decision ever.
@Nico
It’s just so hard. Every bone in my body wants to go to her but I know it will just be the same situation. Rock/nurse to sleep and she’s gonna wake up the second I put her down. I feel like a horrible mom. I know I am the exact opposite but I feel horrible. I know she wants me.
She’s settling down a bit. Nvm. She’s screaming again. Hopefully she goes to sleep soon. What if she falls asleep and wakes up again before the morning? Do we do this all over again or do I put her back to sleep? I never wanted to do this.
@Nico
This was my daughter too. Got to 5 hours of false starts every night and my health couldn’t take it anymore, I was delirious. Did CIO, took a week to implement, did lots of reading and research and got help from the great folk over at r/sleeptrain and soon my daughter was sleeping long stretches with only one night feed. Since then we haven’t felt a regression and in the past week a tooth even erupted and you’d never have guessed based off her night sleep quality because it’s still solid. Such a great sleeper now!
Whatever you do OP I sincerely wish you the best because I’ve been there and understand how tired you are. 
Awake and playing with toys currently with my 9-month-old at 1:30 am because he woke up and refuses to go back to bed. Can’t say this was the right move, but my god… I was losing my mind.
Blayne said:
Awake and playing with toys currently with my 9-month-old at 1:30 am because he woke up and refuses to go back to bed. Can’t say this was the right move, but my god… I was losing my mind.
Yeah we spent from like 10:30 to 11:30 playing. She started getting upset because she’s tired so I nursed her/rocked her to sleep and the moment I went to walk out she woke back up for the 12th time it feels like. I don’t even know how long she’s been crying for now. 30 minutes maybe? Feels like 3 hours. UGH!
Blayne said:
Awake and playing with toys currently with my 9-month-old at 1:30 am because he woke up and refuses to go back to bed. Can’t say this was the right move, but my god… I was losing my mind.
I’m just nursing mine back down after doing the exact same thing. He woke up laughing and waving at nothing and I just gave up trying to put him to sleep after an hour or so. We played until he seemed sleepy again.
Do you use any sleep sacks or something? Unfortunately I’m in the same boat with my 6-month-old so I can’t offer any advice but I feel you & I see you. I know it’s not recommended but my baby only ever sleeps on his own for some naps when he’s on his belly. I feel okay with it because he can turn himself so maybe you can try that if you feel comfortable.
@Vail
Yes. Sleep sacks 100%! She sleeps on her belly sometimes but if I try to manually put her there, she freaks.
Her naps are amazing. It’s just night sleep that sucks. I’ve checked her schedule over and over and she should be neither over or under tired.
She finally fell asleep after 45 mins - 1 hour of crying/screaming