It took me seven months to realize this, so I’m sharing it to help others figure it out faster.
If you’re a parent on leave, a stay-at-home parent, or just taking a day off for a sick kid, remember that naps are your time to relax. Treat them like breaks at work and feel free to enjoy them without guilt. If you want to get things done, go for it. If you just want to zone out and watch YouTube shorts while enjoying some emotional support Oreos, that’s fine too. Want to squeeze in a quick workout? Do it. The important thing is to do what makes you feel good. Sometimes it may seem like you should be doing chores while your partner is at work, but that’s not a fair way to think. You’re working hard; this is your time to recharge.
If your baby is still contact napping, your options might be limited. But don’t feel guilty for taking time to relax in whatever way that looks for you while the baby is asleep. Enjoy the peace and use the time to recharge. Parenting is tough, and you deserve that break.
My baby (6mo) was an exclusive contact napper until recently. My parenting life changed once I figured out my time for chores is when she is awake, and my downtime is when she is napping on me. Now she takes crib naps too, but I still don’t plan on getting chores done then, because that just sets me up for disappointment; you never know if a nap lasts for 23 minutes or an hour anyway.
@Rowan
My 7 month old still only does contact naps. I gave up on trying the crib. The whole process takes too long, and then he wakes up feisty after 15 minutes because I moved him, so funny. Bedtime is the same. He’s been super needy and wants snuggles… maybe teething again? I need a break
Yes, I tell this to all new parents. If your baby can do some independent play, try doing chores during their awake time. I fold laundry and make it fun by flying it over my baby, waving it, and playing peekaboo with my t-shirts. I cook and clean with the baby in a bouncer, dancing around, showing him the food, and letting him sniff it. I even babywear while vacuuming. Not all chores can be done with the baby awake, but if you can, give it a try!
That way, I don’t feel guilty during his naps when I relax.
