My husband and I are celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary with a much-needed two-night stay at a 5-star beachfront resort. We have a wonderful nanny whom our children (ages 2 and 1) love, and we’ve arranged for her to stay with them during our trip. We’ve tested this arrangement over the past two months with date nights, and the nanny has successfully put the babies to bed and woken them up. She truly is a blessing.
We don’t have any family available to watch our babies, so we rely on our nanny. One grandparent has passed away, another is elderly, and two are sick and unable to manage the babies.
Both my husband and I work and have had a tough couple of years outside of our beautiful family, so this trip means a lot to us. I just need some advice or reassurance, no judgment, please. Our 1-year-old now drinks milk after being breastfed. We’ve alerted the aunties for backup care in case of emergencies, notified the neighbors, have security and camera monitoring 24/7, and have all the necessary paperwork, insurance cards, and emergency numbers ready. The pediatrician is also notified just in case. The nanny will not be leaving our home with the babies; she’ll be staying on our property. I’m just starting to have doubts.
Any advice or reassurance would be greatly appreciated.
I’ve been the nanny in this circumstance, and I’d just like to say that not only is this really useful to you as a pair, but it usually meant that the parents I worked with returned happier, and therefore the children were happy as well!
You’ve planned well, and you trust your nanny, so going away for two nights isn’t a horrible idea.
The nanny is the same as the family. Would you think twice about leaving them with a grandmother, aunt, or uncle? They know her. She’s capable. It’s absolutely fine. You should not feel guilty. Have fun on your trip!
I say don’t feel awful about it. Go ahead and enjoy yourselves.
I have several acquaintances who do this on a regular basis. Most of them have two children, and they take long weekend getaways at least once a quarter, as well as a weeklong romance trip in the summer, leaving the children with nannies or grandparents. None of them appear to be unhappy about it.
I only gave birth three weeks ago, and my husband and I had already gone on two dates and out to supper with friends. I left my infant with a reliable nanny.
It seems like you’ve carefully considered everything and have backup plans in place. I am honestly taking notes on what you wrote to use in the future. I suggest unwind and enjoy yourself!
You seem to have done an excellent job preparing for this trip! My parents took a few trips with my brothers and me when we were younger, and they were all quite enjoyable experiences for me; it was a welcome change from the routine. Enjoy your vacation, rest, and recuperate, and you’ll be back in top form with your kiddies in no time.
Leaving children overnight with a nanny is usual and acceptable — and perhaps optimal. It’s more worse if it’s a grandmother they only visit once a month or a babysitter they don’t know. Not everyone has the luxury of a nanny, but if you have, it provides an excellent setting for overnight travel if necessary.
