Ok, I need to know if I messed up. It’s 6am, and I just woke up for no reason. My little one was born in February at 26 weeks. Went through NICU like a tank (I was broken), but whatever, it’s fine. The thing is, I don’t know if it’s a micro preemie thing, but he doesn’t cry unless he’s overtired. When he wakes up, he just talks to himself. He’s 8 months old, but 5 months adjusted.
Unfortunately, NICU PTSD forces me to continuously track using the Huckleberry app. He just got out of the 4-month sleep regression, sleeping every 3 hours. Now he’s back to 5-6 hours a night. Tonight, he’s going on 8 hours. I checked his Owlet, and the kid woke up at 1:40am until 2:35am, and I had no idea. Now I hear every single breath he takes. I can’t believe I didn’t hear him. He just gave up waiting for me and went back to sleep, which he’s never done because I always tend to him.
What did I do wrong? How did he go back to sleep alone? If he needed to eat, did I mess up? I don’t understand why I didn’t hear him. Granted, I was awake since 3am yesterday and put him to sleep at 10pm. I’m 28, a first-time mom. What do I do with a baby that doesn’t cry when they wake up? I feel so bad I didn’t hear his babbles, and he went back to bed after a whole hour.
You are fatigued. Baby is OK. Your body did not rouse you up because it recognized that there was no emergency to be addressed.
I check the Nanit every morning, and my kid is constantly awake; he will just lie there making little noises, exploring his tongue, and eating his hands. Then he relaxes himself back to sleep. I used to wake up to every tiny noise, but I don’t now; I believe my body is unconsciously letting me to sleep through non-emergency baby noises. When he needs me, he makes a lot of noise, whether it’s groaning, moaning, karate kicking, or something else.
Thank you so much . He never sleeps on his back, so I was surprised when he rolled and slept on his back to put himself to sleep. He’s typically as chill as a baby, and I feel like I let him down. Ah, overthinking, I suppose. Thank you, lovely individual .
Definitely overthinking. Babies will let you know if they are not feeling well; you should be relieved that they have learned to self-soothe back to sleep.
From my perspective, I would regard that as a wonderful indicator. The fact that your baby has no concerns about you not being there if required is so lovely. I would think he feels safe, loved, and taken care of .
Everything’s fine. My baby is exactly like that. When he wakes up, he’s completely calm. Even in the morning, I change his diaper, go to the bathroom, and have breakfast, and only then do I nurse him. He’s just fine being awake watching me.
Many times, when he wakes up, he just stays there, no sound, no nothing. I don’t know if he does it during the night, but during the day, I’m awake, and I see it.
There’s no need to go to him the second he wakes up. If mine cries or is fussy, I immediately go to him. But during the night, sometimes he wakes up, makes some noises, and just falls back asleep after some time (sometimes a couple of times, but most times like 5 or 10 minutes). It’s not like “he got tired of waiting for me.” If he wasn’t fine, he’d let us know.
Don’t stress about it and be thankful you have a calm baby!
Thank you very much. I know I seem dramatic, but he’s my best friend, and we’ve gone through so much, so the least I can do is be there for him, I feel. But I can’t believe I fell asleep alone after one hour. It’s crazy. Thank you.
Why think you did something wrong? Your baby put himself back to sleep—what a milestone! An absolute accomplishment.
My son wakes up throughout the night, and I only go to him if he’s crying for something or seems excessively fussy. Often, he’ll wake up, chat with his nightlight, then go back to sleep. This morning, he was up at 3 am, babbling away. If he needs something, he’ll definitely let me know. I’m sure if your baby needs something, he’d also make sure you heard him!
My baby was also in the NICU in his early days. It was heartbreaking to see him and all the other sick babies in there. Therapy helps, sleep helps, and talking to your partner or people who care about you helps too.
Remember, your baby is a baby but also a little person (as silly as that sounds). I’m sure you have nights where you wake up, toss and turn, maybe do some thinking, get a drink, scroll your phone to get back to sleep! He’s his own little guy with his own personality, and it sounds like he’s learning how to get himself back to bed.
No, you didn’t. My 8-month-old infant wakes up at night and rolls around, babbles (and screeches) to herself before falling back asleep 20-30 minutes later. Unless she begins to whine or cry, I simply let her figure it out. Babies benefit from learning how to go asleep without food or rocking.
Your baby is OK; he would have cried if he was hungry or needed you!
My 8-month-old has always woken up for 30-60 minutes every now and then and just faffed herself back to sleep; trust me, if they’re hungry, they’ll let you know.
You’re simply raising a very happy and satisfied little infant.
I had a similar panic this morning, my baby usually awakens after 6 hours and I woke up naturally after 8 hours and he was still sleeping. Bubs was great, but first-time mom jitters are so horrible .
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