I’m a new parent of twins (4m) and wow, I knew it would be tough, but I didn’t realize just how overwhelming it would be! Between the constant feedings, diaper changes, and soothing them both at the same time, I’m finding it hard to get anything done. It feels like the minute one is calm, the other starts crying, and I’m in this endless cycle. My house is a mess, I’m barely keeping up with meals, and don’t even get me started on sleep.
How do other twin parents manage? Is there some kind of magic schedule or trick I’m missing? I’m in awe of parents who seem to have it all together. Any tips, advice, or just some solidarity would be really appreciated! How do you all survive those early months with two little ones at once?
Come over to r/parentsofmultiples I have 10-month-old twins and I will say it gets easier. They drop naps. You can do more with them. It’s still really full on but I have found a rhythm.
Bouncers were my saviour at that age!
You’re doing amazing. It’s so hard and full on. Keep going.
Yes! The first five months were just survival mode for me. My twins are 12 mo and so fun- but the early months are definitely a blur of diapers and feeds. You got this!
Mine do. They have similar sleep needs and so we try our best to put them on the same schedule. They’re usually asleep within about 10 min of each other for naps and the same for bedtime. It doesn’t work for all babies - if you have babies of different sleep needs it doesn’t work.
Does it always go according to plan? Nope! Gotta roll with the punches.
I’m so glad to hear you say you have found a rhythm. I’ve heard so many times that there is no rhythm and constant chaos and I just have to adapt but to be honest that’s not how my brain works hahaha I need somewhat of a routine to function
have safe spaces to put them in every room you’re in. Also don’t be scared to just put both in the cot if you need to go do something.
start a bedtime routine. We do books, sleep sack, song, bed, white noise. They started loving it around this age and they start recognizing it!
don’t sweat the small things. You’re gonna have some days that are absolute shambles. Babies are resilient and you can try again the next day.
get them on an age-appropriate schedule if your babies are schedule-type babies!
go for lots of walks, listen to podcasts and audiobooks for your own sanity!
invite friends over. People love holding babies. It’ll free up hands for you. You get company. Everyone wins.
accept any and all help.
bouncers saved my life then. I had two sets. I got work done by taking them from room to room and narrating what I’m doing, doing little dances for them, etc.
peel back your expectations. You are one person. Be kind to you.
I’m no mother of twins, a FTM of one handsome little boy (10 weeks), and I was literally just wondering to myself “how do people do this with twins?” Are they on a similar wavelength, like when one is sleeping are they both sleeping? When one is hungry are they both hungry? Or, since they are obviously their own little beings, do they operate at different times?? Like one sleeps now and the other awake?
Many blessings to you as I’m sure this is tough. I mentally cannot comprehend having more than one LO at a time.
My sister had twins several years ago and now as a FTM of an 8w boy… I have no clue how she did it lol. Her boys are like total opposites too—since birth you could just tell.
Omg I peed myself a little reading this a little. Happened to me with my 9 mo yesterday exactly when I was feeling smug winning an argument with my husband. Sobered me up pretty quick
lol
I have 10-month-old twins and I will say it gets easier. They drop naps. You can do more with them. It’s still really full on but I have found a rhythm.
